16 Myths About Adoption You Need to Stop Believing
For National Adoption Day on November 17, which strives to raise awareness of
adoption professionals, adoptive parents, and birth mothers to weigh in on
   director of social services for the agency American Adoptions, who was
   family therapist who specializes in adoption. “Based on personality
   adoption is often the hardest they will ever make, says Van Gundy. It’s
   Blaine, LMSW, manager of special needs adoption at the agency
   “give up,” phrase it as “make an adoption plan”—a little wordier, but
   Reality: Birth mothers understand the permanency of adoption. “Adoption
   practice for parents considering placing a child for adoption to
Myth: Open adoption is confusing for the child
   Truth: Open adoption helps children feel secure in their identity. An
   open adoption is one in which children and birth families are in
   can never be loved by too many people—but open adoption does not mean
   director of domestic and special needs adoption at Spence-Chapin. Dr.
   Truth: Open adoption also alleviates children’s questions as to where
   for adoption in a period when closed adoption was the only option,
   “Often closed adoptions create the most confusion and leave room for
   adoptions closed but adoptive parents were encouraged not to tell their
   birth mother today chooses a closed adoption, adoptive parents should
Myth: Adoption is a “second best” way to make a family
   many parents come to adoption through the heartbreak of infertility,
   after a grieving process adoption then becomes their “first choice” in
   do not seek out adoption as their first option when they start building
   were led to adoption. It is impossible for them to imagine not being
   adoptions occur because parents are unable to have biological children,
   instead use a licensed adoption agency. “This is a question that comes
   adoption. In Spence-Chapin’s domestic infant adoption programs, you
   with an adoption are regulated by state law and vary from state to
   international adoptions.” Asking the agency you work with how it
   mother changes her mind about placing her child for adoption. Read more
   about the real costs of adoption everyone needs to know.
Myth: Adoption is expensive
   Truth: It depends. Yes, some domestic infant adoption and international
   adoptions are expensive. “In most states, adoptive parents can pay a
   says Cockerham. Your adoption fees likely also go toward the counseling
   baby for adoption; as well as other agency expenses. But, it’s also
Myth: Transracial adoption isn’t a good way to create a family
   nurturance, and permanency of a loving family through adoption?” says
   toddlers can be told their adoption story in a simple way. “I was
   embrace adoption as part of my story.” Families can open dialogue by
   reading children stories about adoption and creating a safe environment
   adoption, although they may be made to feel that way by others who view
   adoption negatively. “Children who are adopted are faced with some
   the wide range of diverse experiences encompassed in adoption.” She
   occasions in which it didn’t. Adoption makes it no more likely that an
   into your family through adoption,” Dr. Miller says. “This message is
   Truth: There’s no such thing as a perfect parent. Adoption and foster
   upfront with an adoption agency about any concerns you have—but
   adoption professionals know we’re all human. “Adoptive parents want to
Myth: Adoption is a one-time event
   Truth: Adoption is a lifelong process. Because adoption is part of a
   life. “The children and adults involved in adoption continue to
   concerns about their adoption, which parents should be open to talking
   describes adoption as a “legacy” that stays with the child and family.
   “The layers and depth to adoption are magnified as time passes,” she
   says. “Understanding that adoption is not an event, but a legacy is so