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Ask Fiona: My parents-in-law seem to want my husband to get back with his
ex-wife

Columnist and trained counsellor Fiona Caine advises a woman worried her
in-laws prefer her husband's ex, and a teen struggling with school stress

   Your husband's ex-wife may not be a threat to your relationship
--
   She and her mother have a lot of contact with his parents and often
   spend an entire weekend there. They all seem very close, and I am sure
   my in-laws are doing all they can to get their son back together with
   his ex-wife. Whenever there is a family get together, his ex-wife is
   always there. I feel that I should be doing more to win my in-laws
   around, but I work and simply can't visit them that often. Even when I
   do, all they seem to talk about is what their granddaughter is doing
--
   can see why you might feel a bit resentful of this. However, might it
   be possible that you are perhaps worrying a bit too much about it all?
   Have your in-laws been unwelcoming or given any indication that they
   don't like you? From what you've said, there seems to have been nothing
   in their behaviour that suggests they are actively trying to oust you.
--
   You and your husband are in love and it doesn't sound as if his ex is
   making any moves to win him back, other than have a good relationship
   with her former in-laws. It might be that you and she could have a good
   relationship as well and presumably, if she attends family
   get-togethers, you will have the chance to get to know her. It could