Ideas Relationship Tips BLOG HOME / Relationship Tips / [[ '9 Common In-Laws Problems and How to Handle it' | limitText:50 ]] 9 Common In-Laws Problems and How to Handle it by Bridestory [[ 1550196000000 | amDateFormat:'ll | HH:mm' ]] in Relationship -- Colors: * 9 Common In-Laws Problems And How To Handle It - 001 Sometimes, being married to someone also means you're marrying each -- with your new spouse, but you should also try to build a good relationship with his parents at least. But what if you find yourself clashed with both or one of your in-laws? Don't give up yet, because today we're going to help you identify the in-laws' problem you might be having and share tips on handling it in a positive and healthy way. Hopefully, you'll find the solution to these domestic problems and able to make peace with them. Problem #1: My in-law is too controlling [controlling-H1XYUyIGV.jpg] Do you feel like your mother-in-law is the one in charge of your marriage, instead of you and your husband? Does she constantly tell you what to do and not do, where to live, how to raise your kids, and get upset if you do not comply with her instructions? If so, then you might be facing the classic controlling in-law case. It's one thing if you and your spouse are on the same page about how to handle the overbearing figure, but if he's actually following her every command -- To deal with the struggling power play within the family, take time to find the roots of the problem. Is your in-law such a control freak because she's afraid of losing her dominance in her now-married son's life? Why does your husband feel so powerless against his mother? Is it -- marriage together. Create a united front with your spouse and forget about having her approval on every little thing, so hopefully, your in-laws can see who's in control in this marriage. Problem #2: My in-law is rude or unfriendly [rude-r1hFLJIfV.jpg] Surely, you'd love to see your in-laws as an extra set of loving parents in your life, but it will be hard if they aren't as welcoming as you thought they would be. For some reason, you might feel like they -- have your personal space so that you wouldn't have to interact with them on a daily basis. Yes, you should respect them anyway, but you shouldn't force yourself to be best friend with your in-laws if you're just not connecting well with them. Problem #3: My in-law is (still!) treating my spouse like a child [treating-like-a-child-SkQcUk8GN.jpg] -- insists on going camping or fishing with him during the holiday season just like the old days, but it would surely get annoying if they are worrying and babying him too much. For example, if your in-laws are overly fussing about the cold he's having, implying that you are not taking better care of him like they did, unnecessarily sending over -- can grow and be an independent, self-sufficient couple. Problem #4: My in-law is too involved in my married life [involved-ryJoLJ8f4.jpg] The moment you're having an occasional argument with your spouse, just like any normal married couple would, but your in-laws are being nosy and butting in or if they expect you to consult them first whenever you're trying to make a career or housing decision, that's when you know you have a meddling parent-in-law. To have a solid support system is nice, but not if they turned out to be intruding and interfering in your personal issue that was none of their concern. What should you do? You might ask. Well, you and your husband should try to keep any personal issue out of your in-law's knowledge if you don't want them to meddle in it. Don't fight or flaunt your problems in front of them. Also, don't snitch or complain about your spouse -- made by you together with your spouse. Problem #5: My in-laws judge and criticize my every move [criticizing-Bkdj8yUGN.jpg] -- someone watching your every move and then judge or criticize it, especially because they feel like you don't fit their expectation. This is also one of the classic cases of toxic in-laws, where you feel like you can't do anything right. If you're working, then you're not prioritizing your family. But if you stay at home, then they would say -- they can finally see your best intentions. Problem #6: My in-law is clingy and overly attached to my spouse [clingy-Byl2LyUz4.jpg] In contrast to problem #3 where your parent-in-law treats you or your husband as an infant, in this case, they are the ones acting like a child. It's like they're afraid of losing the attention of their son, -- around despite the fact that you're going on a romantic trip, or telling him stuff like how he doesn't love his parents anymore since he was married, then you're facing this particular in-law problem. Handle this problem delicately, because they are his parents and they -- they won't lose a son, but instead gain a loving daughter as well. Problem #7: My in-laws have no respect for my privacy [privacy-Hk9nLkLf4.jpg] Are you having difficulties with your in-laws who love to come to your house unannounced, snoop on your private conversation or even nonchalantly taking a peek into confidential emails or letters? Even if -- Being close-knit and transparent is one thing, but obviously, you don't need to share every personal or intimate detail in your marriage to your in-laws, or other people you don't feel comfortable with. The moment you realize that your in-laws are being insensitive to this particular need, you and your spouse have to work together to build some sort of boundaries and strategy to break off this habit. First, -- you're arguing with your husband over small stuff. Second, create a safe space for you and your husband to be alone, undisturbed. It could be asking the in-laws to call before coming to your house or simply a lock on the door or drawers to keep your private stuff out of their reach. Lastly, respect their privacy in return. Set an example by not -- even when they're asking you to do it. Problem #8: My in-law is dramatic and too sensitive [dramatic-BkVaIJLf4.jpg] We've seen the dramatic in-laws on TV's soap operas, but who knew that they actually exist in real life? Be prepared if your in-law has the tendencies for being melodramatic, making exaggerated stories or constantly being offended by every little thing that you do or say, you might just land a role in this new episode of family drama. When faced with the problematic in-laws who has the knack for acting emotionally and turning you into the antagonist, you better pick your battles. If you react with the same hysterical note as they did, you -- irrelevant, simply walk away, ignore them or respond honestly. There's no need to be rude but convey your feeling in a clear and neutral way. It could also be pointless to make everyone see how wrong your in-law is, even if it's obvious because sometimes is not about being right but being happy. So, for your sake, take the high ground, try to compromise -- marriage. Problem #9: My in-laws try to turn me and my spouse against each other [turning-against-SJfJPJLzV.jpg] This is the worst kind of toxic in-law because instead of being supportive of your marriage they're trying to make you and your spouse turning against each other. As much as we hoped that none of you is facing this problem, we have to break the news that for whatever reason, some in law actually plot and manipulating their way into their kids' marriage! Some might ask their kids to pick a side, between their parents or their spouse, which was totally unfair. Some might also -- fall into these domestic traps. Recognize the pattern, listen to your instinct, and avoid trusting their words instantly, for example, if your in-law is trying to upset you by telling how wonderful your spouse's former lover is compared to you, brush it off and don't take it personally. You should let your spouse know about his parents'