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- Ligne n°50 : If you are a mother in law, father in law, daughter in law or son in
- Ligne n°50 : If you are a mother in law, father in law, daughter in law or son in
- Ligne n°50 : If you are a mother in law, father in law, daughter in law or son in
Ligne n°51 : law, this may be helpful to you! Read and enjoy!!! ...
Ligne n°52 : ... How to survive being an inlaw is an art in and of itself….- Ligne n°53 : Let’s begin with the perspective of the parents in law: well, at last
Ligne n°54 : your son or daughter is married. That wonderful day has arrived and you ...
Ligne n°59 : ... understand your children and how you get along with the newest addition- Ligne n°60 : to your family (your daughter in law or son in law).
- Ligne n°60 : to your family (your daughter in law or son in law).
Ligne n°61 : Well, it is very important to remember that as a parent you are ...
Ligne n°63 : ... up the authority you always felt you had over your son or daughter. You- Ligne n°64 : also may feel a slight natural “competition” with your son in law or
Ligne n°65 : daughter in law. If your son says he loves his wife’s cooking and you ...
Ligne n°64 : ... also may feel a slight natural “competition” with your son in law or- Ligne n°65 : daughter in law. If your son says he loves his wife’s cooking and you
Ligne n°66 : see he is not so enthusiastic about his mother’s cooking, you, as his ...
Ligne n°67 : ... mother, may feel hurt or slighted in some way and may want to find ways- Ligne n°68 : to put your daughter in law down. It is a subconscious situation but
Ligne n°69 : one that can be damaging. It is a kind of subconscious jealousy even ...
Ligne n°69 : ... one that can be damaging. It is a kind of subconscious jealousy even- Ligne n°70 : though your daughter in law never did anything to hurt you.
Ligne n°71 : Or you may find yourself trying to protect your child . For example, if ...
Ligne n°88 : ... You may simply say “Great, come on over”. Or you may feel a bit of a- Ligne n°89 : competition with your new daughter in law and you are happy your son
Ligne n°90 : loves your cooking (deep inside you may not wish your daughter in law ...
Ligne n°89 : ... competition with your new daughter in law and you are happy your son- Ligne n°90 : loves your cooking (deep inside you may not wish your daughter in law
Ligne n°91 : to learn how to cook so well so that your son will keep up his ...
Ligne n°94 : ... Or, perhaps you want to go visit your daughter to spend some time with- Ligne n°95 : her, and your new son in law wants privacy and has made it clear that
Ligne n°96 : he is not so happy that you want to come over unannounced. You may feel ...
Ligne n°125 : ... spiritually. Inlaw relationships are especially good for that!- Ligne n°126 : You may have always felt you would be the best mother in law, or father
Ligne n°127 : in law, in the world. But when your child is actually married, the ...
Ligne n°126 : ... You may have always felt you would be the best mother in law, or father- Ligne n°127 : in law, in the world. But when your child is actually married, the
Ligne n°128 : reality may become a bit different. Suddenly you could feel jealous, ...
Ligne n°145 : ... The key to success is to learn and practice consideration for each- Ligne n°146 : other (both the parents in law and the children in law), and to try not
- Ligne n°146 : other (both the parents in law and the children in law), and to try not
Ligne n°147 : to be very judgmental. You will see a lot of things to criticize in the ...
Ligne n°154 : ... spouse? And, perhaps most importantly, this marriage is min haShomayim,- Ligne n°155 : is from Heaven, and therefore everyone , including the in laws, will
Ligne n°156 : grow from it and experience whatever it is that Hashem wants each ...
Ligne n°179 : ... time to time. Father is angry but remains silent, possibly giving the- Ligne n°180 : cold shoulder to his daughter and new son in law on certain ocasions.
Ligne n°181 : So how should we cope with this situation? ...
Ligne n°211 : ... child is going through. Of course, if the parents really feel upset- Ligne n°212 : because of certain behavior on the part of their child or son in law,
Ligne n°213 : they may have to discuss it with their child, but always in such a way ...
Ligne n°232 : ... marriage, put your own feelings aside and do not complain. Remember how- Ligne n°233 : you would have wanted your parents or in laws to react when you got
Ligne n°234 : married. ...
Ligne n°306 : ... Now let’s take a look at things from the perspective of the daughter in- Ligne n°307 : law or son in law:
Ligne n°308 : You are married, possibly just newly married, or maybe married for many ...
Ligne n°314 : ... law, may feel jealous of your husband’s relationship with his mother,- Ligne n°315 : or you as a son in law may feel jealous of how close your wife is to
Ligne n°316 : her father) or you may feel threatened by your inlaws and insecure ...
Ligne n°321 : ... worries rather than realities.- Ligne n°322 : Or perhaps the characters of your in laws are hard for you to deal
Ligne n°323 : with; maybe you perceive them as being too pushy or too interfering or ...
Ligne n°325 : ... spouse and you do not want your spouse to feel too close to his or her- Ligne n°326 : family. You are afraid of what your in laws may tell your spouse
Ligne n°327 : against you. Or you feel you may lose control in your marriage. You ...
Ligne n°330 : ... difficult due to immaturity, lack of experience etc.) , to look at- Ligne n°331 : things from the in laws perspective too. You must understand that in
Ligne n°332 : general nobody is a bad person. Everyone has their good points. And if ...
Ligne n°332 : ... general nobody is a bad person. Everyone has their good points. And if- Ligne n°333 : your mother in law, for example, is a pushy person and wants to spend a
Ligne n°334 : lot of time with her child or tell her daughter or son how to do ...
Ligne n°341 : ... benefit of the doubt.- Ligne n°342 : However, if you see that the behavior of your mother in law or father
Ligne n°343 : in law is hard to deal with or interferes with your shalom bayit, you ...
Ligne n°342 : ... However, if you see that the behavior of your mother in law or father- Ligne n°343 : in law is hard to deal with or interferes with your shalom bayit, you
Ligne n°344 : may have to discuss the matter with them at some point in time (or at ...
Ligne n°349 : ... things with respect and derech eretz.- Ligne n°350 : If occasionally it happens that the in laws really have negative
Ligne n°351 : intentions and want to destroy your marriage, then you may have to take ...
Ligne n°354 : ... In general remember that the adjustment to your married life is just as- Ligne n°355 : much of an adjustment for your parents or in laws. Especially if you
Ligne n°356 : are the first child to be married in the family. And even if you see ...
Ligne n°360 : ... for example, if a woman is nervous, pregnant, busy with little kids and- Ligne n°361 : her mother in law comes over and criticizes her way of doing things
Ligne n°362 : etc. etc. she may be overly sensitive and build up resentment and not ...
Ligne n°362 : ... etc. etc. she may be overly sensitive and build up resentment and not- Ligne n°363 : want to have much to do with her mother in law. However, if the husband
Ligne n°364 : talks to his wife and makes her understand how much his mother suffered ...
Ligne n°368 : ... important factor. Certainly it is wise to try to look at life from your- Ligne n°369 : in law's (or parents) perspective and to remember they are deserving of
Ligne n°370 : respect and consideration. ...
Ligne n°373 : ... respect his or her parents and if you interfere with that or put down- Ligne n°374 : the parents (your in laws) it will create conflicts within your spouse
Ligne n°375 : and probably more shalom bayit problems. Besides, if you put your in ...- Ligne n°388 : It is very common to blame marriage problems on in laws. But that would
Ligne n°389 : only be the case if , for example, the relationship of the husband with ...
Ligne n°391 : ... respect their spouse properly at all. However, in most cases that is- Ligne n°392 : not so. In general in laws may aggravate existing situations but they
Ligne n°393 : are not usually the real cause marriage problems. And in many cases in ...
Ligne n°394 : ... laws actually help out when there are marriage problems: they often- Ligne n°395 : make peace. It is important to look at the useful side of in laws and
Ligne n°396 : remember all that they can contribute from their own experiences in ...
Ligne n°404 : ... a normal thing. And the families are very close. For example, when a- Ligne n°405 : child marries, they usually live right near their parents or in laws ,
Ligne n°406 : even in the same building. They get together constantly, spend hours in ...
Ligne n°421 : ... The backgrounds, attitudes, family experience of each person will- Ligne n°422 : influence how he or she relates to in laws and this must be understood
Ligne n°423 : as well. ...
Ligne n°430 : ... to the point where the husband would actually get an acute case of- Ligne n°431 : diarrhea every time he had to speak to his father in law on the phone!
Ligne n°432 : The pressure and pushiness was more than he could cope with. He was a ...
Ligne n°452 : ... her family, and extended family is an important part of life (although- Ligne n°453 : she BH has a good relationship with her in laws) but it is in fact her
Ligne n°454 : parents who are the losers and are missing out on seeing their ...
Ligne n°470 : ... Another problem that often arises in a marriage is a case whereby one- Ligne n°471 : or more of the in laws are not religious and the couple are religious.
Ligne n°472 : For example, Yehoshua married Sara. He was from a traditional Sephardic ...- Ligne n°488 : And of course if the couple are not so religious but the in laws are
Ligne n°489 : very religious, that creates a different sort of tension and stress… ...
Ligne n°489 : ... very religious, that creates a different sort of tension and stress…- Ligne n°490 : and also for the in laws themselves! Because they have to come to deal
Ligne n°491 : with their child’s lifestyle which definitely does not reflect their ...
Ligne n°491 : ... with their child’s lifestyle which definitely does not reflect their- Ligne n°492 : own values and that is very difficult for parents or in laws to handle.
Ligne n°493 : They may feel ashamed of their child, or the may feel like failures in ...
Ligne n°495 : ... children in the family. It creates many barriers. However, it is- Ligne n°496 : important for parents and in laws to still keep up a positive
Ligne n°497 : relationship with their children since in the long run they can have a ...- Ligne n°508 : Many in laws are so concerned that their children should have shalom
Ligne n°509 : bayit, that they forego their own respect. For example, Ruth's son ...
Ligne n°518 : ... everyone suffered. Ruth perhaps should have asserted herself more to- Ligne n°519 : bring about a respectful relationship with her daughter in law but she
Ligne n°520 : was so afraid of divorce. In the end her son got divorced and Ruth ...
Ligne n°520 : ... was so afraid of divorce. In the end her son got divorced and Ruth- Ligne n°521 : wished she would have spoken to her daughter in law about respect;
Ligne n°522 : perhaps it would have helped….. ...- Ligne n°524 : In laws should not have to insist on respect, but their behavior and
Ligne n°525 : attitudes should command respect. If they see that their son in law or ...
Ligne n°524 : ... In laws should not have to insist on respect, but their behavior and- Ligne n°525 : attitudes should command respect. If they see that their son in law or
Ligne n°526 : daughter in law do not respect them, they should behave in such a ...
Ligne n°525 : ... attitudes should command respect. If they see that their son in law or- Ligne n°526 : daughter in law do not respect them, they should behave in such a
Ligne n°527 : manner to encourage respect and they should keep their dignity, not ...
Ligne n°535 : ... because that would encourage averas as well. There is a very delicate- Ligne n°536 : balance and art to being a parent in law!
Ligne n°553 : ... Shmuel and Rachel were newly married (only for about four months).- Ligne n°554 : Shmuel was feeling very wary of his father in law: he did not trust
Ligne n°555 : him. He saw that his father in law liked to give advice and Shmuel had ...
Ligne n°554 : ... Shmuel was feeling very wary of his father in law: he did not trust- Ligne n°555 : him. He saw that his father in law liked to give advice and Shmuel had
Ligne n°556 : a hard time accepting advice: he wanted to be his own boss and he did ...
Ligne n°556 : ... a hard time accepting advice: he wanted to be his own boss and he did- Ligne n°557 : not want to hear anything his father in law had to say. His father in
Ligne n°558 : law at first tried to share whatever knowledge he had with Shmuel: he ...
Ligne n°566 : ... was insecure about asserting himself. So he became more and more- Ligne n°567 : disrespectful to his father in law. He even went to the extreme of
Ligne n°568 : pushing Rachel's family away and limiting times that they would see ...
Ligne n°579 : ... worked out well and Shmuel actually came to appreciate and respect his- Ligne n°580 : in laws and to truly like spending time wit them. Although at times it
Ligne n°581 : is emotionally difficult, nevertheless In laws have to try to handle ...
Ligne n°580 : ... in laws and to truly like spending time wit them. Although at times it- Ligne n°581 : is emotionally difficult, nevertheless In laws have to try to handle
Ligne n°582 : each situation with intelligence and not react emotionally or in a way ...
Ligne n°601 : ... In a case where the marriage is basically good and it is just a matter- Ligne n°602 : of working out in law conflicts, people have to have patience and
Ligne n°603 : understanding and not jump to conclusions or over react emotionally. ...
Ligne n°603 : ... understanding and not jump to conclusions or over react emotionally.- Ligne n°604 : This is one of the secrets to being a successful in law. Patience!
Ligne n°605 : It is very important to remember that being an in law is a new phase of ...
Ligne n°604 : ... This is one of the secrets to being a successful in law. Patience!- Ligne n°605 : It is very important to remember that being an in law is a new phase of
Ligne n°606 : life and it takes some adjustment. So don’t be too hard on yourself if ...
Ligne n°628 : ... Sephardic families, the children remain very close to their families- Ligne n°629 : even after marriage, going every week to their parents or in laws for
Ligne n°630 : Shabbat meals and visiting often during the week, going out shopping ...- Ligne n°658 : Many in laws make the mistake of destroying relationship with their
Ligne n°659 : children for no good reason just because their honor is slighted or ...- Ligne n°758 : So do not despair: being an in law is a challenge in and of itself: a
Ligne n°759 : new stage in life and one to be met with courage and hope and ...
Ligne n°761 : ... And certainly one should never put into one’s mind that it is normal or- Ligne n°762 : a matter of fact situation to have problems with in laws. Certainly
Ligne n°763 : not! It is very much a matter of how you view things and how you look ...
Ligne n°807 : ... At this point in life we often marry off some of our children and- Ligne n°808 : become in laws as well as eventually grandparents. This is a stage of
Ligne n°809 : life which is very nice, but at the same time stressful in its own way ...
Ligne n°838 : ... stage of life, constantly thinking of the other person and what they- Ligne n°839 : need. For example, If a mother in law is sensitive and caring about
Ligne n°840 : her daughter in law, she will not be critical of her and will do her ...
Ligne n°839 : ... need. For example, If a mother in law is sensitive and caring about- Ligne n°840 : her daughter in law, she will not be critical of her and will do her
Ligne n°841 : best to get along nicely so her daughter in law respects and loves her. ...
Ligne n°840 : ... her daughter in law, she will not be critical of her and will do her- Ligne n°841 : best to get along nicely so her daughter in law respects and loves her.
Ligne n°842 : And if a daughter or daughter in law thinks constantly of the ...
Ligne n°841 : ... best to get along nicely so her daughter in law respects and loves her.- Ligne n°842 : And if a daughter or daughter in law thinks constantly of the
Ligne n°843 : psychological needs of her mother or mother in law, she will be careful ...
Ligne n°842 : ... And if a daughter or daughter in law thinks constantly of the- Ligne n°843 : psychological needs of her mother or mother in law, she will be careful
Ligne n°844 : not to hurt her feelings or reject her in any way. Becoming sensitive ...
Ligne n°959 : ... friendliness as an insult…or we could realize they are going through- Ligne n°960 : various things and need time to grow. Sometimes a young daughter in law
Ligne n°961 : may be shy or embarrassed to say things to her inlaws and they inlaws ...
Ligne n°1037 : ... babies, cooking, cleaning, having guests for Shabbos etc. whereas her- Ligne n°1038 : menopausal or premenopausal mother in law may feel exhausted,
Ligne n°1039 : inadequate, unable to cope with lots of guests or lots of cooking or ...
Ligne n°1041 : ... all day messing up her house which she has no energy to clean! And yet- Ligne n°1042 : she feels guilty not to help her daughter or daughter in law. She feels
Ligne n°1043 : inadequate, depressed at these changes in herself. ...
Ligne n°1050 : ... One does not have to feel guilty if she cannot help her married- Ligne n°1051 : daughter or daughter in law as much as she would like to.
Ligne n°1052 : Children often expect a lot from parents and do not want to recognize ...
Ligne n°1065 : ... become less patient and somewhat more critical at times. We expect our- Ligne n°1066 : daughter or son in law (or even our son or daughter) to do things more
Ligne n°1067 : efficiently, with the experience that we have accumulated over the ...
Ligne n°1067 : ... efficiently, with the experience that we have accumulated over the- Ligne n°1068 : years. But we forget that for our daughter in law or son in law etc,
- Ligne n°1068 : years. But we forget that for our daughter in law or son in law etc,
Ligne n°1069 : this may be the beginning of a learning process. For example, it is ...
Ligne n°1070 : ... erev Pesach and our kitchens are in order, we are beginning to cook and- Ligne n°1071 : we want our son to do this or that for us. However, our daughter in law
Ligne n°1072 : may not be as efficient or organized (besides having babies to care for ...
Ligne n°1104 : ... Another important matter is to realize that everyone has their moods.- Ligne n°1105 : Sometimes your daughter in law may come to your house with an angry
Ligne n°1106 : looking face and you imagine she is upset with you or unfriendly. But ...
Ligne n°1114 : ... course it is good and proper for children to be pleasant and nice and- Ligne n°1115 : present a good face to their parents or in laws. And same with the
Ligne n°1116 : inlaws to their children. But people are human and emotions are ...
Ligne n°1118 : ... hormones etc. and one has to be patient and not jump to wrong- Ligne n°1119 : conclusions immediately. It also behooves a daughter or son in law to
Ligne n°1120 : do their best to put on a pleasant face in front of their inlaws so as ...
Ligne n°1134 : ... then the relationship will be strained. A mother by nature always feel- Ligne n°1135 : an obligation to help if her daughter or daughter in law is having a
Ligne n°1136 : hard time or needs assistance with the children, cooking etc. But often ...
Ligne n°1138 : ... limitations and helps, never wanting to feel a burden to her children.- Ligne n°1139 : And she does so happily. But if the daughter or daughter in law does
Ligne n°1140 : not show proper appreciation and expects the help, as if the mother is ...
Ligne n°1163 : ... However, the children must think of the pressure the mother (or mother- Ligne n°1164 : in law) is going through. She is older, has less energy, and does not
Ligne n°1165 : necessarily enjoy yom tov when she has so much cooking to do. ...
Ligne n°1188 : ... help. They often feel they cannot cope easily with all their- Ligne n°1189 : responsibilities unless they have help from their parents or in laws.
Ligne n°1190 : And parents often are embarrassed or uncomfortable to say no to their ...
Ligne n°1197 : ... My cousin is a very good natured person, always helping everyone. Her- Ligne n°1198 : daughter in laws constantly send their children to her to be looked
Ligne n°1199 : after and expect a lot from her (coming over for Shabbos, yom tovim ...
Ligne n°1207 : ... spouses not to overwork their parents. Never assume that the daughter- Ligne n°1208 : in law will realize on her own. A lot of hurt feelings and
Ligne n°1209 : misunderstandings arise when we assume another person will understand ...
Ligne n°1211 : ... or difficulties. Do not be afraid to tell your children, or your- Ligne n°1212 : daughter in law or son in law that you would love to help out but you
- Ligne n°1212 : daughter in law or son in law that you would love to help out but you
Ligne n°1213 : cannot because you are not feeling well or you find it too stressful. ...
Ligne n°1224 : ... People learn and grow.- Ligne n°1225 : If you have an argument with your son in law or daughter in law, with
- Ligne n°1225 : If you have an argument with your son in law or daughter in law, with
Ligne n°1226 : time things are forgotten. If someone is too embarrassed to apologize ...
Ligne n°1302 : ... their own emotional needs and psychological situations that need- Ligne n°1303 : fulfillment. If a mother in law, for example, is a very insecure person
Ligne n°1304 : who very much needs approval from her children, she will interpret any ...
Ligne n°1311 : ... rejected or hurt often will carry those feelings into her relationship- Ligne n°1312 : with her own daughter or daughter in law and will be overly sensitive
Ligne n°1313 : and see little things as being a rejection or an insult when in fact it ...
Ligne n°1336 : ... they get older.- Ligne n°1337 : It is extremely important for a son in law or daughter in law (as well
- Ligne n°1337 : It is extremely important for a son in law or daughter in law (as well
Ligne n°1338 : as a son or daughter of course) to call their parents on their ...
Ligne n°1342 : ... time…in general it is important to show concern and care. It is also- Ligne n°1343 : important to answer your in laws when they try to contact you on skype
Ligne n°1344 : (if you are online and you just prefer to ignore them or not respond), ...
Ligne n°1349 : ... Obviously parents also should contact their children or son or daughter- Ligne n°1350 : in law on any special occasions, but parents in general would do
Ligne n°1351 : so…they are older, usually semi retired, and have time to be busy with ...
Ligne n°1351 : ... so…they are older, usually semi retired, and have time to be busy with- Ligne n°1352 : these matters. A child or son or daughter in law who is busy and
Ligne n°1353 : working hard has to make an effort to remember special occasions , but ...- Ligne n°1419 : Being an in law (whether you are the father in law, mother in law,
- Ligne n°1419 : Being an in law (whether you are the father in law, mother in law,
- Ligne n°1419 : Being an in law (whether you are the father in law, mother in law,
Ligne n°1420 : daughter in law, son in law, sister in law or brother in law!) is an ...
Ligne n°1419 : ... Being an in law (whether you are the father in law, mother in law,- Ligne n°1420 : daughter in law, son in law, sister in law or brother in law!) is an
- Ligne n°1420 : daughter in law, son in law, sister in law or brother in law!) is an
- Ligne n°1420 : daughter in law, son in law, sister in law or brother in law!) is an
- Ligne n°1420 : daughter in law, son in law, sister in law or brother in law!) is an
Ligne n°1421 : art, a responsibility and a privilege. Treat it as such. Much hatzlacha ...