o Family & Friends Interference
                    # Case Study C1 – Interfering relatives
               o In-Laws Interference
                    # Case Study E1 – Visiting Parents on Eid
                    # Case Study E2 – Taunting Mother In-Law
                    # Case Study E3 – In Laws 1
          + Parents
               o Case Study F1 – Parents Moving In
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               o Family & Friends Interference
                    # Case Study C1 – Interfering relatives
               o In-Laws Interference
                    # Case Study E1 – Visiting Parents on Eid
                    # Case Study E2 – Taunting Mother In-Law
                    # Case Study E3 – In Laws 1
          + Parents
               o Case Study F1 – Parents Moving In
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   In a recent case of dispute between the young wife and her
   mother-in-law, I was asked the question, “who should back off?”. There
   is not a straight answer to this question. Both sides felt that they
   were in the right. The young wife felt that her mother-in-law is
   meddling in their marriage. She is criticizing her for everything and
   anything that she does including; how she spends her time, what she
   wears and when she goes out with her husband. The mother-in-law is also
   constantly complaining that she does not help with the household
   chores. The wife’s biggest complaint is that her mother-in-law
   constantly talks negatively about her on the phone or in a gathering to
   her children, family and friends or even strangers. She compares her
   with her other daughters and daughters-in-law. She also feels
   frustrated that her husband, who always supports his mother, tells her
   to be patient and respectful to his parents no matter what they say or
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   shattered as his parents want them to stay in the joint family system.

   The mother-in-law on the other hand complains that this daughter-in-law
   is arrogant and disrespectful to them. She never listens to whatever
   they say to her or asks her to do and that she is trying to take their
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   other before the wedding. In USA, Europe, and other places both husband
   and wife work; meaning both are economically independent. Their
   definition of the in-law and extended family relationship is different
   than previous traditions. I also find that many parents are still
   living in the past and have difficulty adapting to the new reality.
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   http://www.rahmaa.org/resources/american-muslim-marital-quality-by-aliy
   a-r-chapman/, the number one marriage issue identified by those
   surveyed was the involvement of in-laws in the couples’ married life.
   In our own experience of counseling couples going through marriage
   problems, the in-law issue remains prominent. Often the husband, trying
   to mediate thinking he has the solution, is sandwiched between his wife
   and parents. Interestingly during the pre-marital counseling sessions,
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   environment. Responding with attitude or show of anger is not a sign of
   respect.
   6. Remember someday you will be a parent or parent-in-law also
   Insha’Allah.

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   4. Young couples dream of their own castle, even if it is a small
   apartment. Let them move to a place of their own.
   5. Your daughter-in-law is now your own daughter. Treat her as a family
   member. Criticizing her in private and especially in public will create
   ill will and tension.
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   of imposing conditions and your will.
   7. Remember when you got married and wished that there was no
   interference from your in-laws.
   8. Neglect their mistakes. Rasool Allah Mohammad SWS asked his
   companions, “Do you want Allah to forgive you on the Day of Judgment?
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               o Family & Friends Interference
                    # Case Study C1 – Interfering relatives
               o In-Laws Interference
                    # Case Study E1 – Visiting Parents on Eid
                    # Case Study E2 – Taunting Mother In-Law
                    # Case Study E3 – In Laws 1
          + Parents
               o Case Study F1 – Parents Moving In